Start with the big chunk and keep it simple to get started.
I wanted to answer a question that was sent to me via private message.
The question was, how do I stay so positive?
Well, to answer that, all the stuff behind it is quite large, quite in depth. Daily actions, processes, permission etc so I have decided to give you the big chunks to consider first.
I noticed a lot of people here who are new to my world, and this is definitely a learned skill for me.
For those of you that don't know too much about me, I spent a long time being a high functioning, depressed personality.
Lots of times I didn't want to be here. Lots of times I acted on making that my reality.
Obviously I failed ay the premature ending of my life which is a super plus for all of us!
And, you know s a side point, 35 years of telling myself one thing about who I was, (I was a shit human, I was unlovable, I was ugly, useless etc, took a bit of unravelling.
To get started, I want to talk about chunks that can get you started on being more positive.
This isn't a on shop stop, cure for depression, but it's a starting point.
Start with a big chunk, and let's have a trickle-down effect.
I want to talk about three points today.
The first one is Identity.
The biggest thing that you can do is, if you're identifying as something that isn't
Positive, is to think how else could I choose to Identifying this moment?
What is another identity that I could choose to start developing and start feeling into?
Could I get really curious about living as a brighter version of myself, to get me started on the road to feeling more positive about who I am and about my life?
Identity is the big chunk.
Because this is who we are.
This is how we see ourselves, it’s our own personal me story.
Now we are with ourselves 24 hours a day. It doesn't matter what other people is saying, if we're choosing not to listen, or we're deciding that that can't be us. It's really hard to look externally for that shift.
So your identity, it's your responsibility.
Sadly, I don't have a magic wand to just go and change your identity for you.
Identity starts with you.
But the exciting thing is you get a choice, right?
You get to choose.
And every day like my identity is no longer high functioning depressed personality person, my identity is Trudi Sparkles, Australias Happiness Coach, the person who is here with a purpose and a mission, and somebody who wants to make a difference.
That's my identity.
That's the identity that I breathe into every day, because I understand that neurologically, I've wired in a lot of not so positive neural pathways in my brain and sometimes during stress that's the path of least resistance with thinking.
It’s easier to think negatively but I consciously choose to think positively and create my life from there.
Now, I'm not going to go into neurology and everything right now, but identity is the first thing that you want to be thinking of and be aware of, and be curious about and start deciding and start looking and see how you turn up is that identity, because then the next step, step number two, is focus.
If you've been around personal development, you would have heard the saying “what I focus on expands”.
If you haven't been around personal development or coaching, your brain determines what you see. your focus, your identity, and then your focus determines how you see your day, and how things show up for you.
You can Google the reticular activating system, this is the part of the brain that deletes distorts and generalizes all of the information hitting your unconscious.
That is the part of the brain that decides what is important.
Now if you're identifying as somebody who is high functioning, depressing, depressed, depressed, unhappy, sad, your brain is going to filter to find evidence to prove that to be true.
Your Focus is Critical.
I choose to focus on positive things.
I start my day right and this is before I even get out of bed before I even open my eyes. I decide how I want to feel
Every morning when I sit down at my desk, I write three things that I'm really grateful for.
Because that shifts the focus.
If something didn't work that I wanted to work yesterday, I shift the focus back onto the gratitude.
There was a whole thing around the power of gratitude.
For now, trust me, gratitude works. And I focus on the good. I focus on the identity. I focus on how I want to show up, I focus on how I want to feel.
I'm grateful for all I have and am becoming.
And this is a ritual and to progress faster, I recommend you fall in love with the process and make it a ritual.
Identity is the first one that trickles down into focus. You get to focus on what you want, because what you focus on expands, so choose wisely.
Then From There, You Have a Choice.
You're not trapped, you're no longer a victim. It's not external circumstances.
It's called law of cause and effect, you're not an effect of things around you, you can step up and be creative asleep, at cause the how you're feeling what's happening in your life.
It's identity, focus and choice.
And you'll find that when you step back into choice, and you're choosing it from a positive identity and a positive focus, things can't help but start to change, sometimes a little gently.
Sometimes you might notice that it's quite dramatic how these things start changing for you.
But these are the three things for those of you that are looking to consciously decide
to be more positive.
These are the three starting points that I would recommend for you.
This is the kind of stuff along with the physiology and the mindset, the emotional, this is the stuff that we do in my course Alignment.
If you need support to create these shifts and changes, get support.
You do not have to do this alone, especially if you're feeling quite depressed and if you are still stuck in that identity of a high functioning, depressed personality.
You know, I did it the hard way. I spent 10 plus years going out of my own attempting to figure it out, and not asking for help.
So look around. World class champions, they have coaches, they have support, they have mentors.
The trickle down effect of choosing to be positive, this is your starting point.
And for the person who messaged me, I do this every single day, every single day because I was in the past that person who just could not see any joy in her life.
I feel for you where you're at.
I just wish that somebody had given me a little shake. And told me some of this stuff sooner.
But what's that saying about planting trees? You know, a year ago was the best time today is now the best time if you didn't plant a tree a year ago, so let's get to it.
That's a trickle-down effect worth taking the time to develop.
I do suggest if this topic is of interest to you or you know somebody who needs to hear it, please share it. I know there's so many people out there who are just going through the motions of life.
You don't have to just go through the motions of life.
Trust me, after some of the things that I've lived, you do not have to just go through the motions. Identity focus choice, you get to decide.
And the road doesn't have to be long. It doesn't have to be scary. It doesn't have to be lonely. I gotcha.
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